Finding My Inner Power and Confidence

Confidence isn’t something I stumble into—it’s something I build daily. My inner power comes from constant self-reflection, little check-ins with myself, and being willing to gas myself up even when it feels uncomfortable.

Sometimes I’ll catch myself watching someone’s video and think, damn, that’s so cool—I wish I was doing that. Then I’ll stop and correct myself: wait, I am doing great things. I remind myself exactly what those things are.

Like today—I told myself: I am someone who is known, I have value, and people want to learn from me. Not in a celebrity way, not in an ego way. I don’t care about flashing an image. What makes me valuable isn’t a spotlight, it’s my knowledge, my worth, my ability to share what I’ve learned and help others grow. That’s the version of “famous” I want to be—the kind that leaves an impact, not just a picture.

And here’s the truth: sometimes you have to say these things to yourself even before you fully believe them. You have to declare who you want to be until your actions catch up with your words. My version of “popular” may not be yours, but in my world, I get to define what that looks like.

Most days, I’m in my car on the way to work reflecting on yesterday, last week, or even years ago. I check myself. I give grace where grace is due. I think about mistakes, about how to do better. I let myself feel big feelings—like when someone annoys me and I think, ugh, they’re so irritating. Instead of staying stuck in that energy, I dig into it. Why does it bother me? Is it worth my time? That reflection pulls me back to center.

I won’t lie—sometimes I distract myself too. A little doom scroll, a little box in my mind labeled come back later. But I always come back. I don’t leave things undone. If it’s heavy, I’ll talk it out with a friend, my spouse, or my sisters.

That’s what makes me different: I don’t just sit in my feelings and let them eat me alive. I process, I reflect, I correct. I give myself permission to have bad days, to cry if I need to, but I don’t let it define me.

People often mistake confidence for ego. They think saying I’m a bad bitch, I’m going to do big things, I’m going to make a million dollars is arrogant. It’s not. It’s self-belief. It’s claiming your worth out loud. Sure, sometimes ego shows up—but sometimes ego is necessary. Sometimes you need that little fire to remind yourself just how capable and powerful you are.

For me, confidence comes from this cycle: reflecting, forgiving, loving myself, and hyping myself up when I need it. The more grace you give yourself, the more empathy you build, the more naturally confidence flows.

Because here’s the secret: when you truly love yourself, confidence isn’t something you chase. It’s something that starts glowing out of you without you even trying.