Being Liked by Everyone… Will Never Happen

Have you ever caught yourself just wanting to be liked so badly that you slowly started shape-shifting? Trying to mold your personality to fit every room you walk into, hoping everyone feels comfortable around you—even if it meant making you uncomfortable?

I didn’t realize I did this until I opened a salon. I thought I was just being a good leader—keeping the peace, making sure everyone felt seen, supported, and safe. And while those things matter, what I didn’t see coming was how much I lost myself in the process. I was so busy trying to be the version of me everyone liked that I forgot to be the version I actually am.

And let me tell you something—trying to please people who don’t even like themselves? Or people whose energy is the opposite of yours? That’s a dead-end road.

The moment I started showing up as me—as a mom, as a leader, as a person who’s direct and passionate and not always everyone’s cup of tea—I watched people slowly fall off. Some left quietly. Some had opinions. Some friendships fizzled. And honestly? That’s on me… for not being real from the start.

I don’t know if it was owning a business that pushed me into morphing or if it was just part of my personal growth journey. But what I do know is this: the best person you can be is yourself. And the more I lean into that truth, the easier it gets.

Here’s the thing: when you start showing up as your full, unfiltered self, you will lose people. But you won’t necessarily gain enemies—you’ll just stop attracting people who were never meant to be in your corner to begin with. You’ll start finding people who get you, who vibe with you, and who show up for you in the same way you’ve always shown up for others.

Yes, it stings when people walk away. Yes, it’s uncomfortable to know some folks might talk about you, twist your words, or make you the villain in their story. But the truth is—they were only meant to be a short chapter. A lesson. Not the whole damn book.

So, let them go. Let them whisper. Let them exit.

And you? Keep showing up.

Because the people who are meant for you will always find their way to your table. And they’ll stay. Not because you changed yourself to keep them—but because you stayed true to who you are.